{PandaMomo Lifestory} "shining as a star ...life is a never-ending journey of discovery learning"

30 June 2007

Human Relations

Yesterday, I went out with my Taiwan travel kakis, Jieting and Colin for dinner and movie. Watched the movie, Transformers. Wow! Lots of explosive action and speed. Interestingly, humour and romance were interwined in the storyline too.

I have been spending time reading my new book 'How to Win Friends & Influence People'. Making use of every opportunity to read and improve myself, especially in handling relationships. Been making use of my bus rides to read and gain knowledge and improve my skill in handling human relations.

The following are some key points that I have learnt from my reading thus far. I enjoy reading this book as I am gaining alot of insights pertaining to human relations.

Part 1
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
Principles to abide ...
1) Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2) Give sincere and honest appreciation.
3) Arouse in the other person an eager want

Criticism is futile. It puts a person on the defensive.
Criticism is dangerous. It wounds a person's precious pride, hurts his sense of importance and arouses resentment

"The deepest urge in human nature is the desire to be important." - John Dewey
"Everybody likes a compliment." - Lincoln
"The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated." - William James

Indeed, it is important to recognise the power of appreciation.
"Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."

"The secret of success lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own." - Henry Ford

"Self-expression is the dominant necessity of human nature." - William Winter

Part 2
6 Ways to Make People Like You
Principles to abide...
1) Become genuinely interested in other people
2) SMILE
3) Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language
4) Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5) Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6) Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely

For the past week since school started, I have also learnt that friends come and go. When friends are busy, friendships tend to be rather "cold" in a sense. Slowly and surely, space needs to be given for friendships to keep warm and going. Be ready to establish new friendships.

Well, I guess it is never easy to maintain a friendship. It takes time, space and understanding. As I read about the various principles of handling people and getting people to like me, I realise it is crucial that others should come before self. Hopefully, I can slowly practise and apply these principles in my life to improve on human relations, particularly in handling friendships. I will try practising SMILING to everyone. BE OF GOOD CHEER. Remember the blessings from God and count my blessings always. GIVE THANKS.

10:00 am;

RESEARCH ASSISTANT & PHOTOGRAPHER

MY PROFILE
momo

*My heart goes all out
to do the best I can,
not for self,
but for God.

*Seek Ye First the Kingdom of God and His Righteousness

*Always hoping
to touch the lives of people I meet
and light up their lives
like a TWINKLING STAR!

*Love for
photography,
travelling,
cycling,
badminton,
reading,
singing,
listening to music
& doing handicrafts like
friendship bands, paper cranes & hearts n making cross-stitch pictures

*Favourite colour: All shades of blue

{JUST BE who I want to be}

Just Be
Be strong enough to
face the world each day
Be weak enough to know
you cannot do everything alone

Be generous to those who need your help
Be frugal with what you need yourself

Be wise enough to know that
you do not know everything
Be foolish enough to

BELIEVE in MIRACLES

Be willing to
SHARE your JOYS
Be willing to
SHARE the sorrows of others

Be a leader when you see a path others have missed
Be a follower when
you are shrouded in the midst of uncertainty

Be the FIRST to CONGRATULATE an opponent who SUCCEEDS
Be the LAST to CRITICIZE a friend who FAILS

Be sure where next step will fall, so that you will not stumble
Be sure of your final destination,
in case you are going the wrong way.

Be LOVING
to those who LOVE you

Be LOVING
to those who DO NOT LOVE you,
and they may CHANGE.

Above all, BE YOURSELF.